Trying out some new instructors and since it has been that long since I have had to embark on this journey I forgotten what it is like to be on the receiving end of someone else’s bloated ego.
Why is it ever necessary to take a call just before a lesson and be curt to someone who is clearly a loved one in front of your student that you’ve just met? That’s just bad manners. Added bonus, you look like a total d-bag.
Why is it ever necessary as a teacher to watch a student do a basic waltz box step? Is it truly to ascertain any information about the ability level of someones dance or is really just to assert your amazing-ness and lord over the awkwardness of an already awkward situation? Your assumption that anyone would be cool with this is misguided. As someone who has been a student of dance for now, cough cough, 10 years, I thought in partner dancing, just having a spin about the floor would be best way to access someones ability. I know a lot of talkers who have nothing to back it up with and a lot of insecure people who when comfortable and safe are swans that can rival even your highness’s dance. Why then, aside from sheer ego, do you insist upon the emotional mess that you’ve just created for the next hour?
Why do you insist upon telling me about your other students? I don’t mean to be a jerk or anything but, when I am paying you to teach me how to dance, this is my time. Yup, I am sure they are lovely people and their journey was theirs and inspirational, but hello, I’m in the room, let’s have some constructive criticism for the lady with the check in hand? I’m really not paying to tell me how great you are via your amazing exploits with other students. I’m not asking for therapy. I will get an actual therapist if I need that. You are not that, I’m paying you to watch me dance, ascertain my weaknesses and come to some conclusive deductions about how to minimize them.
And these are the things we could have easily started on already if you had just shut up and danced with me for a minute when we first met.